Sunday, 6 June 2010

It's been a week.

It has been a week since Jane passed away at St Mary Hospice.
The amount of 'admin' you have to do is amazing. I didn't mind because it took my thoughts away from what had happened. Arranging her funeral was hard, being alone in the house is even harder. I have taken to getting up early so I am so tired at night, I hopefully go straight to sleep without having to think about things.

My children, James (24) Catherine (19) and Edward (17) have been marvelous. They have coped with their mother's death remarkably well. I think they are just relieved that her pain and suffering is over. They have each looked after me and made sure I was not left alone to dwell, fetching and carrying and even cooking. Sarah, the mother to James's daughter Grace has been like a busy bee, shopping and arranging things and continually attentive.

Jane's funeral is next Friday. She has left a full itinerary as to how it should proceed, which was typical Jane. It has made it very easy for me for which I am grateful. I hope she will be pleased with it.


  1. Let me be the fist to congratulate you on your blog. Jane would be very proud of you Martin for continuing to post...good for you!
    I can see that Jane's passion for helping others will continue in your words.
    Take care,

  2. so glad to see you've set up this blog Martin - all of us who loved Jane from afar feel a special kinship with you and the children as well. I look forward to following your new journey. I'm sure Jane is smiling broadly, knowing you're keeping in touch with all her friends. And we all look forward to hearing how the children are doing, and seeing new photos of your lovely granddaughter Grace.

  3. Jane has helped me so much in my own journey with Kidney cancer. She was a remarkable woman. Thank you so much for continuing to share your story. You and your family will be in my prayers this week as you celebrate Jane's life.

  4. welcome martin.jane would be so proud of you,and i am sure it will help.jane was special.and i am so glad i was with her on her journey,one hell of a lady.she touched,and continues to touch so many.i will make sure people know you have started this new blog.take care,mort

  5. Thank you so much Martin for trying to keep us all in touch with you and the family. I am sure in the days weeks and months ahead you will find it helpful to have this place to come and write just about how you are feeling, that is a great thing to be able to do...and all part of the "letting go" experience.
    God Bless and much love to you all
    sybil xx

  6. Welcome to the blog world Martin, I know you piggy backed Jane's blog now and then, but this one is for you. We all want to hear how you are coping and how your life with your lovely family will be without Jane, but with her constantly in your thoughts and I'm sure she is looking down on you all and giving you strength to carry on.
    I will be popping in here just as I did with Jane and look forward reading. I'm sure she would be proud of you for starting your own blog and to keep us all updated on the 'family' and what they are all getting up to.
    Thinking of you all often xx

  7. Hi Martin. Welcome to J-Land. I am so pleased to see you here and even more pleased to read that you are doing okay and have good support. Jane always wanted you to have a blog and I just know she is so proud of you. Sending much love to you and your family. I will be thinking of Jane even more so on Friday and of course you all. Stay Strong. Love Pam.xx

  8. Martin,
    Good to see you here and welcome to the world of blogging. I hope it will make it easier for you to cope with your recent loss, and also easier to keep in touch with people across the world who were with Jane and yourself until her journey ended.

    See you around on the Net!


  9. Welcome to the world of blogging! Jane was a true inspiration to us all. I hope we will be able to help you with your loss and I look forward to hearing more from you.


  10. Hi Martin,

    Really glad to see you have set up a blog, I followed Jane's and it was inspirational.

    The grief never goes but it does get easier. Talking (or blogging) about it really does help.


  11. welcome to the world of journaling/blogging. altho you did updates on jane's, you now have your own. i know she would/is proud, looking down smiling ea time you hit the keyboard.
    i followed jane faithfully, being a cancer survivor (uterine 2007), but i seldom commented. i'll be following you too, but will comment only occasionally, as is my nature. ;)
    continuing to keep you, & the family in my prayers.

  12. Morning martin, Just want you to know that I will continue to watch for your blog,Jane was a remarkable lady and I know she was loved in many parts of the world, Jane proved you dont have to meet a person ever face to face to know and love them.May you and your family find peace and comfort on Friday knowing that prayers and thoughts from so many people you will never meet, are with you part of the awesomegifts Jane has left you with, walk tall walk strong "JANE'S FAMILY" with the strengh you must have in you being part of Jane,and know She will walk with you

  13. Welcome to JLand Martin. I will be thinking of you all on Friday. I know your Jane will be a guiding light for all her family from now onwards. May God bless you all at the loss of a wonderful woman!
    She was so brave to take it into her own hands to plan for her funeral. I know you will all feel her presence around you on Friday and always.
    Take care
    God bless.

  14. Hi Martin - Just to let you know I have found your blog and will tune in each night just as I did with Jane. My family wish your family love, strength and support on Friday as you all say goodbye to a wonderfully brave lady, your Jane. There are so many of us all over the world who admired and loved her humour and who will sadly miss her quirky comments. Love to you all Oldbat xxx